As a Catholic when we are baptized as babies, our parents also pick Godparents for us. My parents chose close friends as my Godparents. While I was still a baby my Godparents, Debbie and Larry, moved out here to Pheonix, Az. Debbie would still stay in close contact with my mom through phone calls almost everyday. In the first grade, my family flew out to AZ to visit them. Then my Godparents got divorced. When we flew out to visit, that was the last time I ever from Larry. In the third grade Debbie surprised me by flying in for my first communion. That was the last time I ever saw her. See, with Larry, we would try to contact him but he would never call us back. I even called him to tell him something at his office but he never called back. With Debbie, for some reason her and my mom got into a huge fight and decided not to be friends anymore. Well, when we were going to move out here, my parents came out for a week to look for houses and got in touch with Debbie and went out to dinner. My mom said that Debbie had the same personality that she didn't like. I had asked my mom to ask Debbie why she never stayed in touch with me. I wanted to know why what had happened between her and my mom effected my relationship with her and me. So my mom asked her and Debbie ended up sending me an e-mail trying to explain but I didn't understand what she was trying to say. Well, I guess to make a long story short, I'm trying to decide if I should try to get in contact with Debbie. In a way I would like to see her since I haven't seen her in 10 years. And now would be the good time to do it since we are moving back to Oklahoma in December. But there is another part of me that is wondering if I shouldn't. I'm still hurt that for the past 10 years she hasn't been a Godparent to me at all. So I guess I'm asking for your opinion. Should I try to patch things up and see her while I have the chance, or should she just be a person in my past? It would really help if I could get some other people's thoughts on this.

Well she hasn't wronged you from anything you have said, except for simply not upholding her oath to help ensure you walked the straight and narrow. I would take the oportunity to try and bridge the gap, or at least let her know that you hold no ill feelings for her.

Sometimes as adults we let our relationships with each other get in the way of our relationships with our kids and god-kids. My son (8) just went through something similar. We, through some very unfortunate circumstances have had to move a couple of times in the last couple of years and he has left behind one very good friend. He questioned why he was not allowed to visit that friend anymore and sadly it is because the childs mother holds some animosity towards my wife, so both kids have to now miss out . That is a tough pill for an eight year old kid to swallow.

She may for whatever reason not wish to reconcile with you because of what happened between her and your mom. We adults can be SO petty..... Anyway it sounds like you are looking for some closure, go for it with NO expectations, but lots of forgiveness and an open mind and heart!

God bless ya

I agree with Steve here. More communication is almost always better than less, and in this case you will at least be able to move back to OK knowing you gave the relationship as good a chance as possible to reconcile.