Po baby

Hey hey dont "po baby" him, this is my topic

Thanks embie

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Hey Steve go argue with a stump or smth

Embie rotf!!

Btw I happened to name our project group... I was chatting on msn, in class , with one of the other girls, and we just threw out computer related words (we've tried to come up with smth for 2 weeks but no luck!) and I joked and made a rhyme (including one word that he uses all the time) as a JOKE and she thought I was serious and of course he thought it was hilarious....... so now we're known as the "tech mechs" Men...

I had a little talk with him today - about women Apparently his ex g/f just told him one day that they weren't gonna see eachother anymore... That's all she said, no explanation nothing! Ok I broke up with a guy like that when I was 17 - she is 28 So I tried to convince him that not all women are like her. But he kept coming back to what I've heard men say for as long as I can remember - I'm never gonna understand women He said she was nice when she wasn't PMsing LOLOL!!

So what is it you don't understand!?

Anyway, then we shared what women do that men hate/dont understand (in general)

Men are supposed to know what their g/f is thinking about (otherwise he doesn't care).

If you ask a man what he's thinking about and he says "nothing" a woman automatically assumes he doesn't wanna talk to her about it...

Women want to talk to their b/fs like they talk to their female friends...

I happened to agree with him a lot because I'm not much like that and none of my female friends either so I hope I gave him some perspective

There was one thing though... He said he didn't have ANY female friends - hello??? Then he corrected himself and said well I do have you [the girls in the class]. So I'm not g/f material, I'm not his friend, I'm smth else!?? For women, every other woman we know, and most men we meet but don't date, are referred to as "friends". Is it different for men

It is if we are being very literal about it. It all depends on what is read into the relationship. It still sounds like he hasn't been told of your feelings tho

No I haven't told him because he is still not over his ex, and I don't want no man on the rebound

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by aleina:


For women, every other woman we know, and most men we meet but don't date, are referred to as "friends". Is it different for men </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">I've started to realize recently that the meaning of "friends" has changed dramatically for women vs. men.

I and I believe most women still define "friends" in the way you described...logical right?

However, I do think it's different for men. I've just noticed it as the pattern for the few males I associate with. Although they may expect/receive the benefits of a girlfriend/dating type relationship, they tend to over emphasize the relationship as just friendship

I'm not sure if this is a recent development or maybe I've just been that clueless

That completely depends on:

1 - the depth of meaning the guy puts into the relationship (ie: if he believes the relationship is moving forward, he is more inclined to give it more weight in terms of the "classification" - a shallow relationship, no matter how much the female wants it to be different, is still "just friends". If the cow is giving away the milk for free to attempt to gain a long-term customer, the customer will return for more milk, not necessarily the whole cow

2 - his perception of the female's expectations in the relationship. If communication is slow in coming, direction in a relationship is not voiced, then the guy will not know how the female views it. Assuming he's on the same wavelength makes a rear outta both of ye

note: works both ways... it's not a female-only or male-only phenomena.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by aleina:
No I haven't told him because he is still not over his ex, and I don't want no man on the rebound </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">aaarrgghhh... so you are fretting over a relationship and his classification of it when he doesn't even know that there is one (or that one is wanted)?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by Allen:
That completely depends on:

1 - the depth of meaning the guy puts into the relationship (ie: if he believes the relationship is moving forward, he is more inclined to give it more weight in terms of the "classification" - a shallow relationship, no matter how much the female wants it to be different, is still "just friends". If the cow is giving away the milk for free to attempt to gain a long-term customer, the customer will return for more milk, not necessarily the whole cow </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">I'm talking about a genuine plahtonic friendship whether between a male or female. As I've said before I have guy friends whom are as plahtonic as my girlfriends. They are not getting any "benefits" from me and they know their boundaries.

However, unless I'm misunderstanding you , it seems as though you are referring an immature/shallow relationship between a man and woman as a friendship. A relationship such as this may not have experienced growth, but I think it's definitely more than just a friendship when there are acts shared beyond the friendship realm.

I do agree that women also constitute an ungrowing relationship as a friendship.

Sadly in both cases, the meaning of friendship has been widely misused

I think women want to lable people;

best friend
close friend
friend
class mate etc
I know who she is
never heard of
I dont like her
I hate her

while men:

mom
g/f
I know who it is

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Originally posted by Allen:
so you are fretting over a relationship and his classification of it when he doesn't even know that there is one (or that one is wanted)? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">I thought the relationship was a friendship

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">while men:

mom
g/f
I know who it is</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">ROFLOLOLOLOLOLOL

so it IS true?

Actually you were to close for comfort I was thinking

Married=
mom
wife
not-mom-or-wife

Single=
mom
breathing......

THB

ROTF!!!!!!!!!!

and according to Steve, I'm nothing more than smth that is "breathing"

Well not to me you aren't!!!!!! ROFLOL

You are "not mom, not wife......"

THBTHBTHBTHHBHTBHTBTHB

there, see you feel better already....

Oh I'm honored Steve!!! I'll upgrade you from "I don't like you" to "I know who you are"