I don't struggle with a whole lot , but one thing that does rear its ugly head often is the feeling of being overwhelmed with everything. Everything that still has to be done, every bill that needs to be paid, all the people I've promised I'd do something for. At those times, I have a powerful urge to drop everything, turn off the computer, leave my job, church, friends and family and just move to a whole 'nother state or country.

It usually passes after I've taken a bit of a break, or see a little positive feedback from my work and time, but sometimes gets pretty severe. Do you go through something like this? What do you do to combat it?

Boy Howdy!!

You aren't alone. I don't get the urge to give up often mostly because I am a perfectionist competitive freak and I can't allow less than the best...... sad ain't it!

But I do get there every once in a while. When I do I just have to go through and cut responsibilities and commitments back to a level that I can function at. Most of the time that is where my frustration comes in is from over committment. I have gotten better but I used to be so bad I could be in the midst of drowning and offer to go fishing with someone later......... sheesh! I have had to just learn the word no on occasion. I have taken the approace that if I can't do it to my (ahem) A.R. standards then I just would rather not do it. Of course that means that a lot of stuff stays undone but I still have my questionable sanity!!!!!!!!! ROFLOLOL

I hear you brutha...

I had and have some struggles still that make me want to pedel to the metal and just drive away...far far away...

What I do when it gets that overwhelming is just take a couple days and go away. Mental vacations are wonderful (as long as you come back ).

Go somewhere ALONE that interests you, touches a place in your heart that brings peace, and just spend the time with God.

People sometimes comment on the fact that I do pick up and go when my kids are at their dad's, but I'll tell you, it works wonders. Stress and "the world" have a easy way of dragging us down. You need time to recharge that battery. Nothing better than a refreshing encounter with the Lord.

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one, and if I had the money I would more than likely be gone. But then I'd start feeling guilty and come back. Here lately I feel so lonely its driving me crazy. I just wish I could go some were and relax and have some fun. I miss spending time with people, but right now I just don't have the money to go any were, but I hope that will change some day soon.

I feel that way a lot. And although I wish I had a better answer, I have come to the realization that there is only one answer... You have to prepare to take it easy.

We all keep waiting to win the lottery or have "the perfect job" or find the "perfect mate" or whatever.... It aint going to happen.

I am in a job that is physicaly, emotionaly, and spiritualy draining more than I have ever been in. But, through all of that, when I begin to want to "leave it all and move to another state", I choose to look at the BLESSINGS that God has given me.

I have been trying to save and invest my money so I don't have to be working so hard in the future. It seems that most people I know, keep waiting until they have money to start putting away for the future.

If you want to start making life easier, START MAKING LIFE EASIER.

If you find your job is overwhelming.... do it better.

If you find your bills are not being met.... set aside now for the bills of the future (even if it is $1 for every $10 paycheck).

If your friends are draining you... take some time for yourself (those who are truly friends will understand, and those who don't probably are only friends on the surface)

The bottom line is God doesn't want us to walk in this "poor-pitiful-me" lie that satan has a lot of us who seem to be posting on the web site walking in.

The word says to Praise Him always.... praising HIM means in the good times and in the bad. How many people knew from His actions and His demeanor the fear, lonliness, and pain that Christ must have felt everyday knowing His calling.

We all need to be helping each other be like the rabbi, and not allowing each other to waller in the "prodical son's pig pen!"

Love yall

innerdawg

Thanks everyone

I find that taking breaks is the only thing keeping me sane at times... my frustration at this site is more like what Steve talked about - wanting to do more/better, but over-committing elsewhere, which keeps me from being here where I really wanna be

I asked for a ministry to help in at church... something not directly church-related, and the softball team fell in my lap. Perfect, except so many people wanted to be a part of it, we now have 2 teams on 2 nights... be careful what you ask for Where I thought I had no time, this is even more demanding... tho I pray for some people who will play with us and against us that we can show them Jesus with skin on. Glad you are playing dawg... will need the influence there

That kinda reminds me of Jonah... when everything was going his way he quit. He preached a few days in this huge wicked city and everyone from the pauper to the king was won over. This made him mad and he left the city hoping to see God finish it off anyways... Jonah must have been feeling a bit overwhelmed at that point.

Brandi, come out Friday night to logon... it's free

I understand what you are saying dawg... I hope this didn't come across as a poor-pitful-me post. I've got lots to be thankful for and in, and generally I stay pretty up - there are times tho that for a few minutes I wanna shoot this computer

Originally posted by Allen: "I understand what you are saying dawg... I hope this didn't come across as a poor-pitful-me post. I've got lots to be thankful for and in, and generally I stay pretty up - there are times tho that for a few minutes I wanna shoot this computer."


Not at all bud...

I just care a lot about you and don't want you (or anyone here) to have anything less than God's perfect joy in their lives.

But don't worry, when my next pitty party is scheduled and I try to invite all of yall I expect ya'll to do the same .

Brother to Brother (and sister) in Christ

innerdawg

Just call my naamme.. I'll be there...

I started the thread mostly to get a little dialogue going about the desire to run and hide... cut bait, that sort of thing. It can be pretty powerful and may be the first step to suicidal thoughts (the need to run away).

I took a 20 hour break from it today and already feel better

I can't lie...I've felt that alot lately. The need to just say "screw it" to put it nicely. Just drop everything, and run away. There are times when I'm driving when I just think, "If I just go and keep going, I wonder where I'll end up." It's a rather scary thought when you really let it sink in, but it has a certain compelling feel to it.

Then there are times (Allen is right; the need to run away is often the first step to suicidal thougths) when I am going around a curve on the highway and I wonder what it would be like if I just slammed on the gas and kept going straight through the curb. Yeah, it'd be scary at first, but then (hopefully) nothing after that.

And that is what it comes down to. When you feel like you're used up and dry, you just get so tired, and all you want to do is not start over, but literally quit. You want NOTHING. You want silence. Peace. Quiet. Complete rest from the madness around you.

I've heard you can feel that way alive if you really learn to let go and trust in Him, but I've not found that peace yet...not completely. I can't let go. There is something, but I'm not sure what it is yet...that I can't let go of.

And whatever that is, whether it's one thing or a thousand, just drives at you and drives at you like a golf ball in the sand pit. Makes you sink just a little deeper with each swing that you don't hit just right until you feel like you're going under.

Things pile up...the laundry, the bills, addictions, problems, the lack of time...there's never enough time. The tasks...you feel so behind on everything whether you really are or not that you think you'll never catch up. The thought crosses your mind that you've screwed up so badly and sunk down so deeply into whatever type of hole you have managed to dig for yourself that you may just be better off to lie down in your hole and let someone cover you up with the dirt and just quit.

I know what you're talking about (though maybe a little more on the extreme side). It's a bad feeling to want to quit...and I can't seem to take time off from it, or at least not enough time to make a difference...

Hey FC

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">Things pile up...the laundry, the bills, addictions, problems, the lack of time...there's never enough time. The tasks...you feel so behind on everything whether you really are or not that you think you'll never catch up. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Helvetica, sans-serif">You sound a lot like my wife. She ALWAYS has the feeling of being so far behind. When we talk about it she feels that she is striving to get to a place where those things are "done" so she can rest. I tell her and offer the same to you. "Things" will never be done. The laundry will always be there, the grocery shopping the bathroom cleaning. There will never be a day that goes by that "something" won't need to get done. On the brightside (God's side) Ask yourself past basic hygeine, what will it matter in the morning if (insert thing here) is not yet done? Then ask yourself will it matter if (insert thing here too) is/was not done when I finally go home? Or could my time be better spent "smelling the roses" Really the queen isn't going to come for luch so does a pile of laundry matter more than you taking time to be with your kids or just spending some time to sit and be at peace with God? There is a scary trend in the world right now that is placing way too much importance on housework while we are not putting too much importance on keeping our Temple clean!

Try to keep things in an "eternal perspective" You aren't going to get a reward for vacuuming daily but you are building a legacy for your children and grandchildren! Do the truly important things, they are infinitly more relaxing!

God bless ya
Steve

well-put Steve

I am pretty good at prioritorizing most things, tho I think this internet thing is an addiction - I literally will drive out of my way and stay up half the night doing stuff that needs to be done, but really could wait another day or so...

I think we are all in the need of some serious prayer, lately all things keep coming at me and I get so sad. Sometimes I cry just about every day. Most of my friends have moved and sometimes it gets lonely out here all alone in this cold world. But I try to keep thinking that one day that God will somehow make something change for the better. I have too or else I just might not make it or lose it. I don't want that at all. Everyone take care Bran
I going to pray for all of us, that God helps us through these troubled times.

I'll stand with you in that prayer Brandi. Where two or more are gathered...

Sometimes when I think about this life and the challenges we face, I just can't fathom doing it with out God. I just don't know how unbelievers make it through. Where is the hope?

I'm praying for you Brandi, and for all of us here.

Yes, me too...

Life can be tiring and seem cold and indifferent at times - He walks through them with us tho during those times...